4 Feb 2000
Here is the latest update from
Kathy. I drove down on Wedneday and returned home on Thursday. Each time
I see Donny there is more deterioration. Yet, there is still that wonderful
smirk that comes through time and again. I got to Cheynne just past lunch
time. Donny was resting, his nurse was still there. I went in and sat with
him and cried with him. It seems harder and harder for him to communicate
his thoughts. I told him that he should not be afraid. That he has brought
so much love into the world that he will get to experience it on the other
side. He is so strong in so many ways, yet unable to beat what the tumor
is doing to him. Kathy holds up very well around Donny but I know that
this is hard. If what I feel is any
Dear family and friends,
Donny had a good visit with Alice yesterday. She came up for the night. He paniced a bit yesterday. Thought he was going to have a seizure. His ativan helped.
Last night we discovered that
he has a urinary tract infection, so he was started on an antibiotic. Then
at 8 PM he did have a seizure. It lasted about 3 1/2 minutes. He was calmer
this time. I kept reassuring him that it would be over soon. He was in
bed, so it was easier to handle. He has been in bed now for over 24 hours.
I think he will probably only be out of bed for
This morning, at 0400, he complained
of a severe headache. I gave him Morphine. It did not relieve the pain.
I had to double dose him. (We had previously tested him at the higher dose
so I felt safe). It did relieve his pain but he did not sleep much and
he wanted me at his side. So I am tired today. He is finally asleep now.
It seems that his deterioration is progressing more rapidly now. His word
substitution is increasing and he just gives up sometimes in frustration.
Although Alice, Donny, and I got a good laugh the other night. He wanted
to watch a particular show on TV at a particular time. He pointed at the
clock and said, "Pray for the clock." He started laughing and so did we.
We finally realized what he wanted after some deductions. He can
picture what he wants to say, he thinks the words, but can't get them straight.
This is expressive
The emails he has been receiving
have been awesome. He really enjoys them. Keep them coming.
September 3, 1999
To Our Dear Wagner Friends From Every Year,
This message arrives full of fear, hope and love.
As many of you know, our dear friend, Donny Green '69, is fighting cancer. He has an aggressive brain tumor which has grown far worse since we saw him at the San Antonio reunion. His best hope is experimental treatment.Donny and his wife, Kathy, are now at the MD Anderson Medical Clinic in Houston. A second surgery is scheduled for September 10th. This is his only hope, followed by chemotherapy. We know you will join us in sending our love, prayers, meditations, healing energy and wishes that he will regain his health and strength and join us at our next Falcon reunion.
One of the worst things about a situation like this is the ambivalence of feeling such deep love coupled with an equally deep sense of helplessness. Both very adult kinds of anguish, which, no doubt have struck all of us by this time in our lives. We are hoping this letter will make all of us feel a bit less helpless.
As you might guess, this crisis has had serious financial repercussions for Donny and his family -- medical costs, travel, lost wages, and so on. Furthermore, the treatment Donny will receive may require return visits, so it's a long, hard, and very risky road ahead.
HOW CAN YOU HELP?
Naturally, your prayers and
love are essential. In addition, a group of us (Andy Bell, Mary Elizabeth
Bolint, Dick Geaseland, Lynn Ansbro Chambers, Nancy McCullough and Felix
Arnett) are trying to coordinate swift assistance in two forms. Time
is of essence, so we won't beat around the bushes
The first way you may be able to help is by making a contribution to assist Donny and his family. Any amount will be welcome; fortune has smiled more brightly on some of us than others and at this point - because we need to respond quickly -- we are focusing on Donny. However, we anticipate that in the future we may also be able to help others. If you can help now, PLEASE SEND A CHECK MADE OUT TO "WHS Alumni Association" with a notation that this is for the "Angel Fund" "Falcon in Need" or "Donny". Please mail checks to:
Andra (Andy) Bell
Andy will compile a list of donors and send a single check to Donny's wife, Kathy. (We d like to spare Kathy the bookkeeping, paperwork, and visits to the bank that would be needed if she receives a series of checks on different days.) Andy already manages funds for the alumni association, which has long had a scholarship fund to help Falcons in need get to reunions, so we are equipped to collect checks. We need to let you know, however, that at this point our association is not 501(C)3 which would make contributions tax-deductible.
Another way you might be able
to help is to donate Frequent Flyer Miles. If you have accumulated enough
miles to purchase a round-trip ticket, it is possible to transfer these
miles to someone else. It appears that Donny and Kathy will initially
get to their destination with the help of the Corporate Angels -
a non-profit program whereby major corporations, when schedules
Lynn Ansbro Chambers
Include the following information:
- your name;
Should the need arise, one of us (probably Lynn) will call and follow through on arrangements and other details.
Thirdly, if any of you have
expertise with insurance companies and getting them to pay for "experimental
therapies" your knowledge will be invaluable. Legal or medical advice in
this regard can only assist us in this group effort to pull out all the
stops for "One of Our Own". Please feel free
We know that Donny and Kathy will appreciate our efforts as well as the unconditional love and support we send to him. We also know that when he is given the opportunity, he will join us in the future if we need to marshal a similar effort on another Falcon's behalf.
With deep affection and gratitude,
Andy, Mary Elizabeth, Dick,
Lynn and Nancy
Our e-mail addresses: